How you prepare

The only preparation needed for premarital counseling is to find a licensed marriage and family therapist. Loved ones and friends might have recommendations. Your health insurer, employee assistance program, clergy, or state or local mental health agencies also might offer recommendations.

Before scheduling sessions with a specific therapist, consider whether the therapist would be a good fit for you and your partner. You might ask questions such as these:

• Education. What is your educational and training background? Are you licensed by the state? Are you credentialed by the AAMFT?
• Experience. What is your experience with premarital counseling?
• Treatment plan. How long is each session? How many sessions should I expect to have?
• Fees and insurance. How much do you charge for each session? Do you accept my insurance?